A formula that will work wonders for you !!!

Sometimes it happens, you are confident that you are correct in a particular topic discussion but the other person doesn't agree with your thought process and they start arguing with you and both of you tries to prove their point of view. Isn't that true? Remember that the other people may be totally wrong. But they don't think so, so don't condemn them or insult them by proving them wrong.Try to do something that only wise and tolerant people choose to do, to understand them. There is a pattern of thought process running in their mind and we have to understand their personality and thought process to understand why they choose to act like that and focus on that first and it will make the life simpler for you and for the other person as well.



What you can do is, try honestly to put yourself in their place and try to understand them then you will get to know where are they heading towards in their mind. If you say to yourself, 'How would I feel, how would I react if I were in his/her shoes?' you will save most of your time and irritation. If we start taking interest in the cause of the problem then we are less likely to dislike the effect. We should remember basic point that, "Success in dealing with people depends on a sympathetic grasp of the other person's viewpoint.

I will narrate a story where you can relate it better. My mother cooks food, teaches in school and cleans utensils and certain other daily tasks. I am working as a software engineer, thought her work is very simple and easy and I am having a hectic day. How beautifully she is spending her day and enjoying her life as well.But one day I tried doing the same stuffs that my mom does every single day and I thought to do her tasks. Half day only it might have went and I started feeling tired and I thought like this is one of the hardest day ever passed in my whole life. So what you learnt from this story? Everybody has a certain task to perform on this planet and we should respect them and their task as well so that they get motivated and they should continue doing their task properly. When I put myself at my mother's place then I got to know how much difficulty she faces every day. No task is small or big and every task is equally important.



Cooperativeness in conversation is achieved when you show that you consider the other person's ideas and feelings as important as your own. Starting your conversation by giving the other person the purpose or direction of your conversation, governing what you say by what you want to hear if you were the listener, and accepting his or her viewpoint will encourage the listener to have an open mind to your ideas.We should have an increased tendency to pause and close our eyes and try to think the whole thing through from another person's point of view. Ask yourself, "Why should he or she want to do it?"